So Dahlonega is not so bad...some of it. We have not only entered the "civilian world" but have had to adapt to its pace - on a small-town mountain people scale. This is not a typical military town - with Camp Merrill home to only a little over 200 soldiers. But I have heard from many that the pace will be just as slow for J.M.'s work. He said today that Monday will be a normal duty day (done around lunchtime). So now we've gone from not seeing each other at all, and barely emailing to "don't you need to go to work or something?" Thank goodness the new house has enough yard to keep all of us busy.
What a beautiful river - perfectly clear and shallow over the round, smooth rocks on the sides, with a fast, deeper center. All the rocks and small rapids make it a loud river, too - I love that. I put my feet in it for the first time this evening, walking far enough toward the center to see a clearer view up-and down-river than what I can get from our higher bank - I swear with the sun setting and the trees and foothills, it looked very unreal. The water wasn't even cold! The temps here have been surprising to me - not into the eighties till after lunch, cool in the shade, nice breeze. I don't know if it took us two whole afternoons to put the kids' swing together because of the difficulty of the work, or the enjoyment of the backyard while doing it!
The girls have had to really embrace the whole "built in best friend" thing since getting here, as there are no kids living nearby to play with (not something they're used to), and are doing the typical sister love/hate thing, but it was so peaceful to watch them play together tonight on the balance beams that are now my flower bed borders, making up adventures, and chasing the millions of fireflies all over the backyard.
SJ is so big and responsible, still concerned for the "little ones" being able to play in a backyard that ends in a river, helping M to slide by himself tonight, and cheering him on. She lectured F last night about how we should all be thankful for what we have..."some kids don't have a Mommy and Daddy, or a house, or food to eat, and they have to eat out of the trash, F! You're all about a trampoline, when Mommy and Daddy have just spent two hundred and fifty hundred dollars on our swing - be thankful."
F says thanks for the swing... lately she is fixated on dying (not wanting to, that is). I think it's because SJ approached me a couple weeks back, concerned, saying she didn't want me to die. I told SJ I wasn't going to die for a very long time yet, and she said "but Mom, you're already in your THIRTIES!!!!" F even cries when she thinks about it. Also, she cries when she thinks about how it will hurt when she has a baby one day. And she cries at 4 in the afternoon everyday, no matter what, just so we know what time it is. And she cries when the wind doesn't blow just right, if you ask J.M. I told him tonight we need to just accept that she is emotional, and not try to make her feel bad for being who she is (what a Mom thing to say) because he keeps saying "we've just got to stop that".
M still likes his sleep. He has his first black eye due to the steps in the house. He tried to break bad on me tonight during the decomposing that is called "time for bed". He stuck his pudgy 2-year-old finger with its black dirt under the fingernail out at me, the tears streaking the film of dust on his face and screamed "no no!!!!" I have no idea what he was telling me no for, I had just walked up, but he meant it! That proceeded on to a "running in place" fit. Probably shouldn't have laughed, but I did.
The swing me and Christie (neighbor-turned-dear-friend-against-my-will at Fort Benning) used to swing on daily, drinking wine and speaking our own language, is now down by the river, visited at least once daily, but with a twinge of sadness for missing her. It probably won't enjoy hearing the same "juice" in these next two years as it did in the past 6 months! But maybe the absence of conversation mixed with the constant small-rapids river noise has its own story to share...